Human sexuality and the art of loving...

Becoming empowered at a point of one's own sexuality is perhaps the most vital of realities for a human being. It is frightening and it takes a lot to risk and share in something so intimate. It involves your entire being. Human sexuality is power as it includes the body and soul. Far too often we have become abused in that reality, woman being the most vulnerable. We have had our sexuality exploited to the hilt and often by another's 'gaze' who determines how we view or value ourselves - sex being that measurement of acceptance. I prefer to see ourselves through spirit with sexuality as sacred. It is a scary process, particularly for me. I think what frightens people most of all about gay people is that they take their own sexuality into their own hands. It is not longer controlled by another's determination of what that should be and removes complete control from them.In the Bahamas and elsewhere hetero-sexual men have traditionally excercised more sexual freedoms than woman yet they feel they have a right to control and determine yours.Why anyone should be so concerned about what another does in the privacy of their own bedroom is an amazement to me but it is important to talk about these issues so people feel they are free to experience themselves fully within the intimacy of their own private space. I am just discovering that I have a right to. I am becoming 'unveiled'. Learning not to be afraid is being able to speak about it. I am still rather old fashioned and conservative but know this is something I do need to understand in order to overcome these fears. For me it is still a gentle process that requires sensitivity and understanding.I am not talking about 'pornography' but the possibility of sharing love with another. That should never be something to fear. It is a path toward independence and liberty that leaves control in one's own hands. It is empowerment!..peace, love and power...